Ever so often, I wonder about that elusive second child. Do I want one? Do I need one? What if I denying Ri something by not having one? What if I am denying myself a career by having one at this stage?
I am a Libran so even if that means, constantly and carefully evaluating and balancing decisions, it also means a scale that is always tilting, I am pretty indecisive.
With Ri, it all seemed so much simpler.....
After we had been married for 2 years, RD was convinced he wanted a baby. And, in case you do not know, he is a sales guy. He can sell his point pretty convincingly, when he makes an attempt to. I was a bumbling 27-year old who has a whole lot of nothing going on at that point of my life. I was running a design unit which was largely unsuccessful, we had a great team and were high on motivation but low on luck and a clients! I wrote part-time for an online newsletter and even that project dwindled away!
RD would pat the space in-between us in our bed and say " One day we'll have our little baby here. I cannot wait to see him/her."
My closest girlfriends and cousin were having babies, so that was definite motivation and I had a husband who desperately wanted one. Who was I to say no?
So, we decided to have our baby and I think that was the best thing that happened to me at that stage of my life.
I had all this energy.
If you've known me for long, you'd probably nod your head and smile.
I have a lot of energy when I decide to do something. I make a plan, I write lists, I fret, obsesss, rant and push myself a lot. What can you do with that much energy and no customers to transfer it to? I put it all into Ri. I prayed for a healthy baby. I asked for a fresh start. And, a little girl.
The pregnancy was the best thing that could have happened to me. I needed a break. Desperately. And, Ri gave me that.
I finally had a reason to shut down my unit. Letting my designers go was painful, feeling like a failure, even more so. Seeing the disappointment in my father's eyes that I was not cut down to be an entrepreneur, let's not even go there....but nothing was that bad because I had my 'little baby' to look forward to.
Between RD's travelling and my work, we had never really found the time to travel together.
Mid-pregnancy, we took a nice long babymoon to Malaysia and Phuket. Even when she was in my stomach, she brought me a lot of luck and happiness. RD and I had a great time, we ate at McDonalds, held hands, took the Monorail aimlessly, ate Seitan with fried rice, watched chick flicks, ate caramel popcorn. We did a lot of touristy stuff. I read Eat, Pray and Love, ate Key Lime pie and bought a pink hand-bag. You might have thought we were on our honeymoon, you know like them couples who discover they are pregnant and then decide to get married!
On the first day of Navarathri 2009, we were in Malaysia when we discovered we were having a girl.
To be continued
I am a Libran so even if that means, constantly and carefully evaluating and balancing decisions, it also means a scale that is always tilting, I am pretty indecisive.
With Ri, it all seemed so much simpler.....
After we had been married for 2 years, RD was convinced he wanted a baby. And, in case you do not know, he is a sales guy. He can sell his point pretty convincingly, when he makes an attempt to. I was a bumbling 27-year old who has a whole lot of nothing going on at that point of my life. I was running a design unit which was largely unsuccessful, we had a great team and were high on motivation but low on luck and a clients! I wrote part-time for an online newsletter and even that project dwindled away!
RD would pat the space in-between us in our bed and say " One day we'll have our little baby here. I cannot wait to see him/her."
My closest girlfriends and cousin were having babies, so that was definite motivation and I had a husband who desperately wanted one. Who was I to say no?
So, we decided to have our baby and I think that was the best thing that happened to me at that stage of my life.
I had all this energy.
If you've known me for long, you'd probably nod your head and smile.
I have a lot of energy when I decide to do something. I make a plan, I write lists, I fret, obsesss, rant and push myself a lot. What can you do with that much energy and no customers to transfer it to? I put it all into Ri. I prayed for a healthy baby. I asked for a fresh start. And, a little girl.
The pregnancy was the best thing that could have happened to me. I needed a break. Desperately. And, Ri gave me that.
I finally had a reason to shut down my unit. Letting my designers go was painful, feeling like a failure, even more so. Seeing the disappointment in my father's eyes that I was not cut down to be an entrepreneur, let's not even go there....but nothing was that bad because I had my 'little baby' to look forward to.
Between RD's travelling and my work, we had never really found the time to travel together.
Mid-pregnancy, we took a nice long babymoon to Malaysia and Phuket. Even when she was in my stomach, she brought me a lot of luck and happiness. RD and I had a great time, we ate at McDonalds, held hands, took the Monorail aimlessly, ate Seitan with fried rice, watched chick flicks, ate caramel popcorn. We did a lot of touristy stuff. I read Eat, Pray and Love, ate Key Lime pie and bought a pink hand-bag. You might have thought we were on our honeymoon, you know like them couples who discover they are pregnant and then decide to get married!
On the first day of Navarathri 2009, we were in Malaysia when we discovered we were having a girl.
To be continued
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